Men are laughed at for having “bachelor pads” where beer and Chef Boyardee cans consume the place. Men are expected and assumed to own dirty homes that need a woman’s touch to put it in order. Females, on the other hand, are ALWAYS expected to be clean. This woman just isn’t that clean.
I HATE cleaning! And I hate the idea that no matter who comes into mine and my fiance's home, I am the one they look at as needing to clean it up. I am considered dirty and lazy if I don’t clean but my fiance, oh no, he’s without any blame. How is this fair?! It’s not that I don’t love and appreciate a clean home, of course I do. But with my constant on-the-go schedule and late hours, I can’t keep up with everything. And I do not enjoy spending the entire day cleaning my whole house when I have a million other odds and ends tasks to straighten out. Am I the only female who feels this way about cleaning?
I’m also a giant hypocrite in this regard because although I would love someone else to do all my cleaning for me when I want it done, I want it done MY way. Is this a female thing? Virgo thing? Crazy person thing? I’m not entirely sure but I do know that it’s hard for me to give up some control of the responsibilities of cleaning because I like it done a certain way. This just ends up making things more difficult for me.
Anyway, my major point is that I hate how a clean house reflects a well-kept woman and a dirty house reflects an untidy woman. I hate that if I don’t vacuum for one week I’m suddenly seen as a lazy slob even though I’ve been running around like a mad woman doing tons of other things. I hate that men are allowed to be messy and grow up thinking that a women (especially a wife) is going to take care of them the same way their mothers did. Well guess what, this wife is not a mother and I’m not interested in mothering my man. I’m also not interested in cleaning. But I’d love to organize everything when you get done dusting it for me!